They are neither hungry nor thirsty and are not suffering in any way by not eating. It is an expected part of the journey they have begun. The dying process often accelerates in the last one to two weeks of life and can be frightening for families. The mental changes, especially, can be disturbing to family members.
At this point in the journey, it is not advisable to "correct" your loved one if she tells you something that doesn't make sense. Gently listen, and support her in her thoughts. If she claims to see loved ones who have died, simply let her tell you. We really don't have a way to know if these are hallucinations, or if our loved ones have seen something we cannot see. Simply love her.
Disorientation is common and altered senses of perception can be expected. One may experience delusions, such as fearing hidden enemies or feeling invincible. The dying person may also experience hallucinations, sometimes seeing or speaking to people who aren't there. Often times these are people who have already died. Some may see this as the veil being lifted between this life and the next. The person may pick at their sheets and clothing in a state of agitation. Movements and actions may seem aimless and make no sense to others.
Physical and Emotional Changes as Death Approaches
They are moving further away from life on this earth. She may have trouble swallowing medications or may refuse to take the medications she has been prescribed. If she has been using pills for pain, she may need liquid morphine at this time.
The last couple of days prior to death can sometimes surprise family members. Your loved one may have a surge of energy as she gets closer to death. Some loved ones take this increase in energy to be a sign the person is getting better, and it can be very painful when the energy leaves. Know that this is common, and is usually a sign that a person is moving towards death, rather than away. This surge of energy may be quite a bit less noticeable but is usually used as a dying person's final physical expression before moving on. The surge of energy is usually short, and the previous signs become more pronounced as death approaches.
Breathing becomes more irregular and often slower. Cheyne-Stokes breathing, rapid breaths followed by periods of no breathing at all, may occur. Congestion in the airway can increase causing loud, rattled breathing. Again, this change in breathing can be very uncomfortable for loved ones but does not appear to be unpleasant for the person who is dying. Hands and feet may become blotchy and purplish mottled. This mottling may slowly work its way up the arms and legs.
What Physically Happens to Your Body Right After Death
Lips and nail beds are bluish or purple and lips may droop. The person usually becomes unresponsive and may have their eyes open or semi-open but not seeing their surroundings. It is widely believed that hearing is the last sense to go so it is recommended that loved ones sit with and talk to the dying loved one during this time. Many people wonder if they will recognize if a loved one is dying, and there are often signs which begin a month to three months prior to death.
Understanding these signs may not only help you prepare for your loved one's death but may bring you comfort as you face these physical and mental changes. If your loved one is on hospice, your hospice nurse, social worker, or clergy can help you recognize and understand some of the changes, and help you know what will help you support your dying loved one as much as possible.
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The body temperature lowers by a degree or more. They spend their lives pleasing others instead of themselves or, avoiding what they truly desire out of fear of a conflict. The wife or husband who spends 20 years capitulating to the needs of a spouse, parents, and children set themselves up for emotional upheaval at midlife. How you respond may determine whether you lose your marriage.
Choose a trustworthy partner. You should always feel safe communicating your wishes and desires to them. Make life about more than your family and work. Don't deny needs you have that can only be met outside those two things. It may be as simple as playing golf on the weekends or, take time away for a hobby you are passionate about. It's important to stay independent and not allow others to define you. Maintain your individuality.
Don't buy into the antiquated belief that marriage means spending all your time with your spouse, sharing the same interest as your spouse and becoming, "one.